Blessings, affirmations, grace, and reflection

I was driving around today when I saw this mural on a wall in East Harlem. I got out of car to take a picture of it. A couple of blocks later I was pulled over and summoned for a defective brake light. I guess the blessing in this is that at least I wasn't driving at night when I could have been involved in an accident as a result of not having my brake light working. Thank you God for your watchful eye of protection.

It just hit me. I think I might have this blogging thing all wrong. Instead of using it to vent I should be using it to write about my blessings. I came across a girl's blog where she wrote about one magical moment a day. Lately, I have been allowing myself to get caught up in negative thoughts and behaviors. Imagine how life changing it might be if I would focus on my blessings instead of my grievances. Like today for example. I was having a great day. Until I was pulled over and summoned for a defective tail light. I started to let it ruin my day, but why should I allow one moment to undo every other wonderful experience I had?  So, from now on I will try really, really, hard to stay positive and only write happy thoughts. Wish me luck!

So I changed the name of the blog. Again. Let's see if this one sticks.

Happy Father's Day to any dads who land upon my long forgotten blog. I had a stressful week, but I will come out on the other side as always.  Most of the stress was work related and while I don't like to vent about work on here, I feel like I need an outlet for my frustrations. I have been holding it in and then it always comes out in the most inappropriate times and ways. Please be patient with me, God is not through with me yet. I start vacation next week. Yay!  I planned to travel and possible move. Well, the devil quickly squashed those plans.  My student loans became due and I was threatened with have having my salary garnished if I didn't fork over nearly $1K a month! Extortion. It is crazy because you can have your credit card bills settled and negotiated, but your education expenses can cause you to be homeless. What is wrong with this world? I will never advise a person to take out student loans. If you can't afford to pay for your education yourself or get ...

I love these houses with porches and gardens!

A survey recently asked the question, if you and your future spouse could stay in the black financially by bypassing getting a ring would you. Hells yeah! Buying a house and making sure the bills are paid are so much more important than a symbol of our love. A symbol could be represented by everything from a necklace to a tennis bracelet. It is just a symbol, but it is not our love. We all know that love is more than an object and though you can't buy love you need money to keep the love alive. The irony is that I have alway had these untraditional ideas. I was never a little girl who dreamed of a big wedding or wanted all the fixings and trimmings. I have a former coworker who is the same age I am and is working on a third marriage. Ironically I have never been married and seems at this probably never will be. While I didn't want all of the hoopla that comes with marriage, I do want the companionship. I've been alone my whole life -- raised as an only child -- losing my ...