Blessings, affirmations, grace, and reflection

I am not surprised, dismayed, or otherwise about Rhianna and Chris Brown's reconciliation. I remember being in an abusive situation at that age and courting danger was part of the appeal. The violence is just part of the passion. Sadly, they live in a world where everyone surrounding them is a "yes man." Such a cute couple, but so toxic. They need therapy and intervention. Eventually one or both will realize that they are worth more and walk away. In the meantime, pray for them.  Pray they don't wind up as the next Bobby and Whitney.

So just in time for my four days off I get hit with allergies. How annoying! I stayed in relaxing Saturday and Sunday, but made it a point to get out and enjoy the unusual winter sunshine on Monday. I decided I would head to Brooklyn since I hadn't been over there in a while. I intended to go see this, but couldn't find parking so I just took pictures of the old neighborhood. I was expecting more changes. Many of the businesses were closed. Not sure if it was because it was early in the day, if it was the holiday, if it was Monday, or if they were closed for good. Will have to read the neighborhood blogs to get the scoop.  As I was passing a cute little place tucked away on a quiet street, I nearly bumped into Malik Yoba as he came barreling out with a cute little cafe au lait , naturally curly about half his age trailing at his heels. By the time I look around he had jumped into his black BMW and was gone in a flash. I think my camera scared him. I still have tomorrow off and...

I don't understand the mindset of our "role models." They may not consider themselves role models, but they are. Kyla Pratt has decided that she is not yet ready to 'commit' to marriage with the father of her daughter, but she committed to having a child with him. That is an 18 year commitment right there. Jennifer Hudson did the same thing, as did Nia Long, and Halle Berry. In Halle's case she swore she wasn't going to remarry. Now that she and the baby's father have broken up, she is remarrying and dealing with a messy custody battle. Regardless of whether you want to commit to that man or not, you are choosing to commit to him when you decide you will bear his off-spring. That is a minimum of an 18 year commitment to that man. I wish they could see it that way.