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T hanks for all the comments and votes on the topic "Is it appropriate to contact your friend's man when visiting out of town?" As of this posting, 12 people feel that it is quite inappropriate while a mere 6 people think it depends on the circumstances. No one seems to feel that there was nothing wrong with the scenario...apparently all is NOT fair in love and war if this situation is any indication. T he poll will stay open another day or two but the responses are so great I had to share them...more to come on this topic next week complete with detailed explanations. Want to know when I've updated? Scroll to the bottom and sign up for email notification. Sample two singles from the latest Shanice CD titled, Every Woman Dreams . >>>Listen: Keep it to Yourself >>>Listen: Things in the Movies In the You'd Better Watch Your Back Category: "No "friend" would even dare to ask that question. So yeah watch your back." "I c...

The short version: Let's say you have a friend. The friend goes on vacation out of town. While there your friend calls you to ask for the phone number of the person you are currently dating who happens to live in the city the friend is visiting. Do you give the phone number to the friend and is it even appropriate for said friend to ask for it? Additional details to follow at the close of the polling period. Is it appropriate? All is fair in love and war. You'd better watch your back. Depends on the situation (explain in comments) View Results

"Let me take you on a journey through Carmel City" - Pete Rock and C.L. Smooth T his weekend, I took a stroll down memory lane. I met up with an underground blogger and we rolled across the bridge to the land of Brook otherwise known as Brooklyn. Specifically, the old hood with it's slate covered sidewalks and rows of brownstones . Just one block over from my first New York apartment, a five story dilapidated walk-up (think of the movie Barefoot in the Park ), was an inconspicuous art gallery owned by Russell Simmons' brother, where a photography exhibit by Jamal Shabazz was being shown. I wasn't familiar with Mr. Shabazz's work prior to attending the exhibit but I quickly became a fan of his photographic style. Underground and I enjoyed reminiscing about the "back in the day" hip-hop urban styles that are a trademark of Mr. Shabazz's photos. It was an interesting retrospective about the roots of hip-hop culture. It would be interest...

T his evening everywhere I looked brown people were walking along snow covered sidewalks carrying bundles of wrapped flowers or bunches of metallic balloons. Valentine's Day made it's way up to Harlem. I stopped into Make my Cake * where a line had formed to pick up last minute sweet treats. Proceeding down Seventh Avenue to 135th there was a florist shop filled to capacity. I have never seen either of these businesses so busy in all the time I have lived here. If there was a premier chocolate shop in Harlem, I'm sure that would have been full as well. As quickly as the area is going ultra high-end with various specialty shops and even a brand new car dealership , I wouldn't be surprised to see Go.diva or some other gourmet chocolatie r creeping up to 125th Street. Harlem Valentine's Day. Speaking of chocolate, last weekend a co-worker and I wound up meeting in Times Square. She lives in Pelham and that was basically the mid-point for us to mee t for dinn...

T oday, a mysterious box appeared at my door full of goodies. The card inside didn't have a name so whoever sent this lovely gift , thank you and let me know it was you so I can thank you properly. It smells simply delicious! Obviously someone who knows what I like was thoughtful enough to send it. Whoever it was, this made my day. Thank you so much for thinking of me.

Every Valentine’s Day, people reflect on the amount of romance in their relationship. For some, Cupid’s arrow strikes with a passionate bulls-eye, while for others the arrow misses its mark, leaving them wishing for more romance. One of the most common patterns we see in working with couples is the disappointment and disillusionment which comes when one or both partners feel the romance is gone. There’s little or no passion and excitement, though they fondly remember a time when the mere thought of being together elicited powerful feelings of intense love and tenderness. Yet now the relationship seems dry, stale, and boring. What happened? And is it possible to get those wonderful feelings back? In a new relationship, we are all granted a free grace period where tremendous passion, aliveness and intensity is bestowed upon us with minimal effort. There is evidence that there is a physiological reason for this period of infatuation, where the brains of new lovers are saturated with highe...